Wednesday, November 30, 2011

Adultery at its best!

Kobe Bryant, Tiger woods, and Arnold schwarzenegger what do they all have in common. They are all adulterer caught in the act by their spouses and came out in the media apologizing about their actions. Kobe Bryant was able to reconcile with his wife but Arnold and Tiger got a divorce. In The last lecture we spoke about adulterers and how they are sympathized. How does the world really sympathize with the adulterer male? The example of the famous governor of California getting caught fathering a child outside of marriage was outrageous to the    common American people. Arnold really took adultery to a new plateau that had never been publicist before in the media. I think about how the media really looks out adultery is it acceptable if a child is not involved. For example the other famous figures did not get punished as greatly as Arnold did. I believe that the only reason why Arnold was shunned by as a public figure is because he was not a sports figure and set a governmental role. Why do these famous figures conduct adultery when they have a family and kids present in their life. Possibly its because they have fame and money. What is very odd is how women are not greatly exposed to a great degree in the media when they do conduct adultery. The man is not the only figure that can break a marriage or a woman also cheats. Then this goes into the topic of cheating women should it be allowed. This shows an example of how in disenchantment love only women can tell true stories and these true stories show men as enemies. The problem is that male figures are not enemies’ and famous women also conduct adultery. Hey if the male figures expose why not expose the women? I believe that the spot light should not only be imposed on male figures but females should also take responsibility.


Disney Princesses

Summary: Paving the way for the Disney “princess” culture, Andy Mooney, Disney Consumer Product’s chairman, saw little girls generically dressed as princesses at a “Disney on Ice” show and was inspired to produce a new identity (Johnson 1). In 2000, he oversaw the Disney Consumer Products’ project, which focused on Disney Princesses, a recently growing franchise with $4 billion in worldwide retail sales (Disney Consumer Product 1). All of the Disney’s princesses—Ariel, Belle, Cinderella, Jasmine, Mulan, Pocahontas, Rapunzel, Sleeping Beauty, Snow White, and Tiana—are banded “together in a comprehensive collection of fantasy-based girls’ entertainment and products called the Disney Princess brand” (Disney Consumer Product 1) Now, that same group has everything from costumes and toys to bedspreads and home ornaments. Disney’s ultimate marketing strategy is to target their prime customers: girls.

Analysis: All the princesses, save for the aberrant few, have to some extent sold themselves in order to obtain the happy ending. In the end of every Disney princess movie, the girl must end with her counterpart. This gender distinction and joining are substantiated on a moral desire to preserve heterosexuality, a social construction founded on marriage—union with the opposite gender. Thus, the female and her fiancĂ©’s performativity to the roles of the princess and prince respectively additionally stresses heterosexuality as a predefined social “normalcy.” So these girls are encouraged to buy princess bridal gowns through marketing strategies that exploit their childhood fantasies (Disney Bridal). The girls are becoming the wrong kind of princesses, ones who persist in the traditional feminine roles that give way to men and their values due to an ever-growing base of consumers. At least the girls have created their own mark: the Disney princess syndrome (Johnson 1). Disney has successfully influenced the girls to drive their parents to buy their products all in the ambition of raising their total revenue. While the girls may dress, look, and on the surface act like princesses, they fail to recognize that there is no special difference among their homogenized identity—a typical, consumer-orientated princess fanatic.

“Disney Consumer Products.” Disney Consumer Products. Web. 6 Nov. 2011.

Disney. Advertisement. Disney Bridal. Disney. Web. 06 Nov. 2011. .

Johnson, Matthew. "The Little Princess Syndrome - Natural Life Magazine." Natural Life Magazine - Green Family Living. Natural Life Magazine, Nov.-Dec. 2010. Web. 06 Nov. 2011.

Tuesday, November 29, 2011

Gender Stereotypes in "Psycho"

In order to keep cross-dressing in a socially unacceptable category the film industry has made it either comical or horrifying. Talking with one of my roommates the other day, I revisited the movie Psycho by Alfred Hitchcock to refresh my memory of it. In this movie I realized that there is a reveal scene with Norman Bates in which he takes off his disguise and trys to kill Lila Crane. By connecting the reveal scene with a horrific moment in the film, the film seems to demonize cross-dressing. In addition, it also is stereotyping women as vengeful creatures since Norman only kills people when dressed as his mother.
His disguise gives him the confidence to don an entirely different persona, however it also states some malicious characteristics of women. Norman's mother is portrayed as controlling and judgmental and is never really portrayed as a loving maternal type. In addition, the movie also seems to suggest that as a man Norman has no ability to murder, however when dressed as a female he is able to commit heinous crimes with little to no thought on the matter. This lack of emotional response does go against the emotional stereotype of women, but it adds to a woman who strives for power. As a powerful and controlling woman in the story line, Mrs.Bates must be portrayed as a harm to society, rather than a type of woman that society would benefit from. This way both cross-dressing and women are subtley viewed as dangers to society's morals and overall well-being. Also, in this scene even Norman submits to the power of a male when he trys to kill Lila. When dressed as him mother he must still give in to the authority of men in order to make things right in the story. There is also very little struggle between the male savior and Norman which demonstrates a willingness to conform in order to receive justice in society.
Here is the link with the Psycho scene:

It's almost Finals week. Let's have sex...?

http://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/2011/11/29/worlds-first-sex-school-opens-vienna_n_1118304.html?ref=weird-news&ir=Weird%20News

In this article I found on the Huffington Post, "The world's first international sex school has opened which claims to teach its students how to be better lovers."


Swedish-born "headmistress" Ylva-Maria Thompson says anyone over the age of 16 can enrol at what she describes as "the world's first college of applied sexuality".


When I read this, I was sure this was a joke. In this university, students are expected to practice different sex positions and such within mixed gender dorm halls. This idea of free love within the University is not exactly new, as students have sex in universities everywhere, but in an environment where sex is expected to be practiced within the dorm halls... That's a different story. Paying tuition to learn how to have sex well just seems wrong on many levels.

It's understood that an international school may have different values, but this kind of university challenges many morals and ideals of western cultures. First off, they accept anyone age 16 and older, but in the United States, sex with people under the 18 is considered illegal and can be deemed as sexual assault and rape, and yet this school promotes behavior at a younger age.

This university definitely holds different purposes for  their education, and it's not detrimental to society, but I just thought it was interesting.

-Fred Kim

The Big Bad Wolf

This is a music video for a techno song "The Big Bad Wolf" by Duck Sauce.
The song has no lyrical relation to the video, but the video itself is strangely provocative and somewhat disturbing, in that the reproductive organs of the male and females in this video are in fact second heads.
This relates with the lecture about talking penises and vaginas. The sexual organs are shown to have their own heads, and they display a different personality than that of the actual person. When the males get sexually aroused by the women surrounding them, the song howls (which is just a cool sound sample for the song), and it represents a kind of sexual urge for indulgence. The idea that penises and vaginas have their own mind and mentality are personified in this video. It can easily be disturbing, as I personally was dumbfounded when I saw this video, but the relation to the fables of talking penises and vaginas are clearly interpreted and represented in this video.

they say men think with their penises, and in this video, it's clear that the penis head is dominant in it's decision making, as in the end of the video, they end up in bed having "sex" with females they find attraction towards.

When I saw this video, I couldn't help but think of this gender class and the talking vagina/penis lecture specifically.

-Fred Kim

Healthcare of Transsexual Persons Causes Unnecessary Suffering, Swedish Study Finds

ScienceDaily (Nov. 15, 2011) — In 1972, Sweden became the first country in the world to legislate healthcare for transsexualism within the state-financed healthcare system. In an international perspective, this was considered to be radical. It was expected that the life situation of people in the transsexual group would improve, now that state-financed healthcare was available for this group. A thesis published at the University of Gothenburg, Sweden, however, describes this care as an oppressive gender-conservative system that causes suffering for transsexual persons.


The requirement for sterilisation is not the only aspect that causes suffering. The compulsory psychiatric gender investigation of minimum duration 2 years for those who wish to change their legal sexual identity can also give rise to anxiety.

"Those who qualify for gender-corrective measures also known as sex reassignment treatment, become legally acknowledged as the gender in which they recognise themselves. But a prerequisite for this is that they lose something: namely the possibility of having biological children, since the law states that a transsexual person must be sterilised (sterile) ," says ethnologist Signe Bremer. Her thesis describes studies of autobiographical blogs and in-depth interviews with people at various stages of gender-corrective care.

"Waiting is sometimes experienced as being nearly impossible to bear," says Signe Bremer.

Her thesis shows that the physical bodies that transsexual persons wish to correct, play an important role in the assessments made by the psychiatric system about who is considered to be suitable for gender correction. A transsexual woman who demonstrates visible beard stubble, for example, may receive negative comments, while a transsexual man with a muscular body and flat chest may receive compliments. In summary, a "suitable" body can be described as a body that health care staff consider compatible with that gender that the transsexual person recognise him/her-self.

"The investigations seem to be based on the belief that a good life as a legally recognised woman or man goes hand in hand with a person's ability to blend in. The investigators fail to realise that every person has, in fact, a unique appearance. Furthermore, I have shown that it is often the investigating personnel, and not the transsexual person, who emphasises the importance of being able to blend in, just as any 'normal' woman or man," says Signe Bremer.

According to accurate gender corrective health care logic, people's bodies should be unequivocally materialised as one or the other sex. A woman should, for example, not have a penis and a man should not be able to get pregnant. Signe Bremer's results show not only that a similar way of thinking is prevalent within the group of transsexual persons, but also that transsexual people exercise resistance against the heteronormative principles of the healthcare system. Far from all transsexual women, for example, feel the aversion to a penis that medical practitioners maintain as prerequisites for 'authentic' transsexualism. Many transsexual men are also critical to the requirement that the uterus must be surgically removed.

"The gender investigation tends to focus heavily on the genitals. One of the transsexual women I interviewed did not express sufficient rejection of her sexual organ, and the investigation was delayed because of this," says Signe Bremer.

Signe Bremer is critical to the common perception of transsexualism as synonymous with the experience of being born in the wrong body.

"We live in a society that is dominated by the idea that there are only two types of people -- feminine women who are born with a vagina and masculine men who are born with a penis. Healthcare for transsexual persons is a part of society, and this idea therefore also characterises the conditions required for gender-corrective measures. The work presented in my thesis shows that this often has serious consequences for the life of an individual," says Signe Bremer.

Trans specific health care is part of society, consequently the same gender norms and beliefs characterizes prevailing conditions for gender correction. My thesis shows that this often has severe consequences for individual persons' lives, says Signe Bremer.

Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender Seniors Face Harder Old Age, U. S. Study Finds

ScienceDaily (Nov. 16, 2011) — Aging and health issues facing lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender baby boomers have been largely ignored by services, policies and research. These seniors face higher rates of disability, physical and mental distress and a lack of access to services, according to the first study on aging and health in these communities.


"The higher rates of aging and health disparities among lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender older adults is a major concern for public health," said Fredriksen-Goldsen, a UW professor of social work and director of UW's Institute for Multigenerational Health. "The health disparities reflect the historical and social context of their lives, and the serious adversity they have encountered can jeopardize their health and willingness to seek services in old age."

The study, released Nov. 16 and led by Karen Fredriksen-Goldsen and colleagues at the University of Washington's School of Social Work, indicates that prevention and intervention strategies must be developed to address the unique needs of these seniors, whose numbers are expected to double to more than 4 million by 2030.

She presented some of the study's key findings last week during a congressional briefing.

The study highlights how these adults have unique circumstances, such as fear of discrimination and often the lack of children to help them. Senior housing, transportation, legal services, support groups and social events were the most commonly cited services needed in the LGBT community, according to the study.

Fredriksen-Goldsen and her co-authors surveyed 2,560 lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender adults aged 50-95 across the United States. The researchers found that the study participants had greater rates of disability, depression and loneliness and increased likeliness to smoke and binge-drink compared with heterosexuals of similar ages.

Those seniors are also at greater risk for social isolation, which is "linked to poor mental and physical health, cognitive impairment, chronic illness and premature death," Fredriksen-Goldsen said. Study participants were more likely to live alone and less likely to be partnered or married than heterosexuals, which may result in less social support and financial security as they age.

Histories of victimization and discrimination because of sexual orientation or gender identity also contribute to poor health. The study showed that 80 percent had been victimized at least once during their lifetimes, including verbal and physical assaults, threats of physical violence and being "outed," and damaged property. Twenty-one percent of respondents said they were fired from a job because of their perceived sexual orientation or gender identity. Nearly four out of 10 had considered suicide at some point.

Twenty-one percent of those surveyed did not tell their doctors about their sexual orientation or gender identity out of fear of receiving inferior health care or being turned away for services, which 13 percent of respondents had endured. As one respondent, a 67-year-old gay man, put it, "I was advised by my primary care doctor to not get my HIV tested there, but rather do it anonymously, because he knew they were discriminating."

Lack of openness about sexuality "prevents discussions about sexual health, risk of breast or prostate cancer, hepatitis, HIV risk, hormone therapy or other risk factors," Fredriksen-Goldsen said.

The good news? "LGBT older adults are resilient and living their lives and building their communities," Fredriksen-Goldsen said. Of the study's respondents, 91 percent reported using wellness activities such as meditation and 82 percent said they regularly exercised. Nearly all -- 90 percent -- felt good about belonging to their communities. And 38 percent stated that they attended spiritual or religious services, indicating a promising social outlet.

Social connections are key, the study noted because, unlike their heterosexual counterparts, most lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender seniors rely heavily on partners and friends of similar age to provide assistance as they age. While social ties are critical, there may be limits to the ability of those older adults to "provide care over the long-term, especially if decision-making is required for the older adult receiving care," Fredriksen-Goldsen said.

The study was funded by the National Institutes of Health and the National Institute on Aging.

Why do we always blame the other woman?

I read this article online and thought it related to our lecture today..

Why is it that when men cheat we always blame the other woman? Yes the guy will get some stick but will more than likely be forgiven depending on the circumstances, whilst the lady involved is hated. Surely it's a two way thing? When I caught an ex of mine texting an associate, I was less than impressed. This to me was unacceptable behaviour and whilst it wasn't a deal breaker it was an easy excuse for me to end the relationship as I wasn't happy anyway. The point is whilst I was angry and didn’t talk to him for a long time I found it easier to forgive him than the girl. Every time I'd see her I'd feel a surge of anger and bitterness. My reasoning was that she knew I was in a relationship yet still entertained his advances and flirted/texted him. When it came to him my emotions overtook my anger and I eventually forgave him. Add marriage and children to the equation and it’s a whole different ball game.

One of the reasons is because it's easier. We don't want to believe that the man we love could deceive us like that. It's easier to shift the blame onto the woman than deal with the fact that your boyfriend played away. It has a lot to do with denial; we just don’t want to accept that our partner would/could cheat on us. So we shift the blame onto the woman in order to think that the man wasn't at fault. We don't want to believe that our partner rejected us...right?

Or maybe because we're so besotted with our partners and we're blinded by the facts. If we shift the blame onto the woman we won't have to face the responsibility of dealing with the issues at hand. The fact is the other woman did not drag the man to bed. I doubt she drugged him or held a gun to his head. Let’s not forget that some men lie about their relationship status. How can you blame the ‘other’ woman if she had no idea they guy was already spoken for? I bet some women do still shift the blame and convince themselves that deep down the mistress did know.

Is it because that woman has done/given your man something that he felt you couldn't. This affair has highlighted that your relationship isn’t going as strong/good as you once thought. Or because the woman may have known the guy was already in a relationship. It still doesn’t make her solely responsible.

It takes two to cheat and shifting the blame onto the woman won't change the fact that your man did the dirty. Thoughts?

The other Boleyn Girl

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NX0LoorqtRM

This movie reminded me of our lecture today and the cheating aspect amongst sisters.

Cheating Women in Film

Something Borrowed Trailer:

After Professor Velasco's lecture yesterday about women who cheat in the context of Sex and the City and Ravages of Vice, I was reminded of an example within a movie that I had seen where two women cheat on a man and how the film's portrayal of the action attempts to evoke two separate reactions about the women from the audience .
The film that had such an interesting portrayal of a cheating woman was Something Borrowed, which involved a woman named Rachel who becomes involved with her best friend Darcy's fiance, Dex. The catch is that Rachel and Dex have had a very close friendship for years and Darcy is not portrayed to be a very likable character as she frequently manipulates and insults Rachel just for the heck of it. So from the outset the idea is created that Dex and Rachel are meant to be together, while Darcy is an annoyance who is unfortunately soon to be married to Dex. As the movie carries on Dex and Rachel continue to sleep with each other and go out together while hiding their romance from Darcy. The audience is put in a tricky spot since they are not sure how to think of Rachel because she is, after all, destroying a relationship by sleeping with Dex, but since Darcy is such a terrible person she almost becomes vindicated. This problem is eventually fixed at the end of the film as Darcy tells Rachel that she cheated on Dex, allowing Dex to break up with Darcy and pursue a relationship with Rachel. I found this resolution very perplexing since the only way for Rachel's problem to be solved was if Darcy committed an act that was morally just as bad. In the end, both characters became portrayed as trashy and horribly unqualified to be in a relationship. However, the film's message seemed to try and push the audience to feel as if the cheating that Rachel committed was not as bad as the cheating that Darcy committed, as if saying that because Rachel is single and has loved Dex forever then it is morally accpetable for her to do what she did, while Darcy is a terrible person for cheating because she was engaged and never truly loved Dex in the first place. The film makers essentially validate a woman who cheats if it is out of an act of true love, which I find interesting since many people find cheating unacceptable on any level. Unfortunately, this message was poorly executed, making it very hard to see their point.
Additionally, it was funny to see how Dex was caught in the middle and really wasn't portrayed in any light whatsoever. While the film seemed to focus heavily on Rachel's honest-to-goodness struggles with her feelings for Dex and Darcy's trashiness throughout the film, Dex just went along with the ride. I think this also highlights the acceptability of the thoughtlessness many still have for men that cheat. This isn't to say that I think society is accepting of men who cheat, but I feel as if there doesn't really have to be a reason for a man to cheat, it's just kind of expected. Women however have to be in complete and utter love or a terribly unclassy person with an insatiable libido in order to commit such an act. All in all, watching Something Borrowed was something awful, but it was certainly interesting to see how the portrayal of cheating women within the film brought some insight into societal views on such beings.

Overdone Plastic Surgery

I saw this news story on plastic surgery on Pete Burns, a British pop star from the 1980's. This man has the face of a woman, but is also addicted to plastic surgery. He had one extreme trauma with a past lip implant surgery, however Pete still feels that plastic surgery is the best way to make life interesting when he gets bored, or just keep himself looking young. Without the back story I would have guessed Pete to be a woman because his face has various feminine features with large lips and high cheek bones. Pete's face has radically changed from its original appearance which many had thought to be quite beautiful in its own right.
Despite Pete's extreme transformation, he states that he is still happy with the way he looks, and will continue to get more plastic surgery in the future. Pete refuses to say if he has had any surgery to alter anything but his face, which I find quite commendable. Although Pete's facial evolution is terribly radical, the rest of his body he sees as personal property. This is very refreshing, since in today's world many celebrities will brag about plastic surgeries that alter the body in hopes of gaining extra time in the spotlight. Although, Pete's comment that he decides to do plastic surgery if he gets bored was shocking, he is still willing to mold himself into an image that he feels is right for him. I respect the fact that even though Pete's facial reconstruction has brought him massive amounts of attention, he still chooses to alter himself as he sees fit, rather than conforming to society's attitude and halting any further drastic surgeries. This story was fascinating to watch and it definitely made me think about one's boundaries versus how society might set those boundaries for someone.
Here is the link:
The story is the one that is called "Pete Burns' Plastic Surgery Nightmare"

Monday, November 28, 2011

Single Ladies




I stumbled onto a video of 5, 7 year olds performing an incredibly provocative dance to the song “single ladies” by Beyonce. At first glance, one is simply disgusted to see such young girls dressed in such a scandals way. As they start to dance, that feeling is overpowered by a sense of how incredibly talented these miniature people are. They are fantastically trained and talented dancers, and they execute their moves with grace and synchrony. They are passionate and attack the dance full heartedly. As the dance continues, there is more booty shaking, and dropping it to the floor. You are overwhelmed at how effectively these young girls can communicate sexuality, and you begin feeling guilty for even momentarily being impressed. My last blog post was on the horrifying spectacle that is child beauty pageants, and while this is of a similar flavor, it mad me question my original thoughts. My question becomes, to what extent do these children understand the connotations of the moves they execute. And if they do not understand, does that mean they are not harmed by it. Children learn many actions, but they only learn their significance from adults. If the children do not understand sexuality and that what they are doing is sexual, then how can they be objectified? If they think they are just dancing, and pulling the difficult moves that they have been taught, then who’s to say it is harmful. In fact, our disgustful judgments potentially say more about societies views of sexuality and perversion. Am I perverted because I was unable to see their dance as nothing more than a dance, and my mind could not help to add sexuality to people that did not intend to portray it? What does that say about my conception of sexuality?

A similar question was raised when photographer Bill Henson’s portraits of naked twelve and thirteen year old began a huge controversy in Australia. Nudity in art has always transcended the realm of simply sexual, so why is this case any different. There was nothing inherently sexual about the images, but they featured younger girls. “It might be argued that sexualization is entirely in the eye of the beholder; the audience leave as they are revolted, or perhaps as they fear incrimination as witnesses.” Are these both examples of an overly sexualized audience, imposing its fears and desires onto whatever they’re provided with? Or is there something inherently wrong with taking picutes of naked 12 year olds or having seven year-olds perform provocative dance moves?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ir8BO4-7DkM

The Bechdel Test


http://bechdeltest.com/

While surfing about on the internet one day I discovered something called the Bechdel test, which is a very interesting test that one may apply to any Hollywood movie. It simply has three qualifications that are listed as followed:
1. It has to have at least two women in it
2. Who talk to each other
3. About something besides a man
While this test doesn't actually indicate anything in particular like if it is sexist or not, it is still interesting to see how many modern films actually fail to pass this test. For instance, the very popular Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows, Part II failed to pass any qualification but the first. Surprisingly, the women in the movie don't ever talk to each other, with the exception of a few moments where one female character may say something to another female, but since every time this happens, the opposing female character doesn't actually respond or give a substantial answer, the community generally agrees that the only test that can be guaranteed as a "pass" is the first. Additionally, the critically-hailed film 50/50 manages to pass the first two tests, but fails on the third test since all of the female characters talk about is the protagonist, Adam. Although there are a lot of films that can fail this test and still have powerful and prominent female characters, this test still reveals how, on a large part, many films are male-centric and utilize women's roles as a background part to enhance the story of the male. While it may not be a conscious choice of the screenwriter, since there is after all, no qualifications they need to follow when creating a story, it is interesting to see how many films are actually very male-driven. I mean, this test doesn't ask for the women characters to be leads or to save the world or anything -- it only asks that two or more women talk about anything other than a man and surprisingly it fails way more often than expected! Overall this is a humorous test worth a look that can provide one with a lot of insight into the subconscious (or maybe even conscious) minds of those in the film industry.

Sexuality in the Movie J. Edgar


This past break I attended the movie J. Edgar. This movie was very interesting and displayed a homosexual relationship between two men, J. Edgar Hoover, the director of the FBI, and Clyde Tolson, his right hand man. While in the film, this relationship was quite visible and obvious, in real life people can only speculate that they ever had a sexual relationship. In real life, J. Edgar Hoover was very secretive about his sex life, which makes it difficult to say for certain that he in fact had a relationship with Clyde Tolson.
The significance of this secretive relationship, assuming, as the majority of historians do, that it was in fact substantial, is that it had to be kept secret. During his reign as director of the FBI it would have been a career ending blow if Hoover’s homosexuality became public. In fact, Hoover was a key player in much anti-gay legislation because of society’s expectations at the time. This shows how far we as a society have come in understanding that heteronormativity should not and cannot be the sole source of gender-role expectations. Currently, our society still has much progress to make regarding sexuality and acceptance. But the fact that throughout his
entire life (1895-1972) Hoover was forced to hide his true feelings for another person for the sake of his job, reputation, and most likely, personal safety, shows that great steps forward in issues relating to sexuality are, and have been, in progress and will and should continue.

Sympathizing with Adulterers


During today’s lecture, we discussed sympathies and audience forms regarding adulterous relationships. In the two examples we saw in class, both of the cheaters were sympathized with despite the fact that they were the ones doing the cheating. This fact interested me and called into question why, as an audience, we are sometimes able to disregard the fact that a character is cheating on their significant other in order to feel sympathy for the character. I found some
telling information about this in two articles. (http://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/TheUnfairSex
and http://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/GoodAdulteryBadAdultery
)
One of these articles dealt with the “good” versus “bad” adulterer in popular media today. It listed aspects that are often found in both of these types of adulterers and how we determine whether we sympathize with the cheater, or the person being cheated on. Some examples of a bad adulterer include the affair occurring out of lust instead of love, the cheater having no remorse or guilt about their actions, and the adulterous relationship destroying an otherwise happy marriage. On the other hand, a good adulterer is described as being in an abuse
relationship, “forced” into cheating, and cheating for true love.
The other article describes a discrepancy between the number of male and female “good” adulterers. In general, most “good” adulterers are female and vice versa. This fact correlates to the two examples we were shown in class because in both cases, Ravages of Vice and Sex and the City, the “good” adulterer was a woman. The writer argues that this discrepancy is present because of the way society stereotypes men and women. In general, men are thought to be more lustful and thus, more likely to have an affair for carnal pleasure, while women are often viewed as entering into affairs for reasons that deal with love rather than desire. These common beliefs are quite possibly what lead to the difference in how we view both male and female adulterers in film and tv.

the pageant america

Child Beauty pageants represent a five billion dollar a year industry that puts on approximately five thousand pageants each year. In fact, The Learning Channel television show, Toddlers and Tiaras, is dedicated to following these pageant families as they train their children to perform suggestive dance routines and drag the youngsters from event to event. The pageant parents are a driving force behind the sexualization of their children, but the problem goes beyond a few eccentric parents. Not one of the stylists, coaches, judges or, administrators seems at all uncomfortable teaching these developing beings that if they aren’t perfect, they will fail. With rising concerns about the way our teenage girls associate their appearance with their worth, how can society be content with imposing these values on infants and toddlers? Child beauty pageants reflect views that equate attractiveness with success by rewarding children with trophies for being the most beautiful, and making them feel guilty when they aren’t. In teaching them to associate an unrealistic idealization of beauty whit success through out life, we are setting them up to never be satisfied with their bodies, and constantly ashamed of they way they look . This mentality may be extreme and obvious in pageantry, but it extends beyond that, into the homes and minds of every American family. In a world where women’s issues, and women’s rights are ever more attracting attention and notoriety, how is our culture internally becoming more misogynistic?

Sunday, November 27, 2011

Cross-dressing in Kids Movies

This break I reorganized my DVD cabinet with my mom and I found an old movie called "Ladybugs". This movie is about a man, Chester, who wants a promotion so badly that he takes the coaching position on his boss's daughter's soccer team and promises them a winning season. However, the team is awful and has no chance of winning, until Chester creates a scheme to put his fiance's soccer superstar son, Matthew, on the team disguised as a girl, Martha. The movie shows the transformation scene that we talked about when going over Leutinant Nun. Although, in order to portray a girl Matthew must don a blonde wig and a dress, which he greatly opposes at first, but gives in to after a bit. The movie demonstrates that by encompassing both sexes, a person becomes more complete and thus well-rounded.
This movie also includes a lot of gender stereotypes. There is one scene in particular where one of the girls can not seem to find the aggression to play soccer well, however once her opponent makes her break a nail she becomes enraged and a star soccer player. Thus portraying women as overly emotional and unable to focus unless it is out of an act of vengeance. Also, the audience sees a transformation in Matthew, from a harsh aggressive male to an encouraging and emotionally aware man. The movie also provides the reveal scene, where Matthew takes off his wig in front of the soccer team. However, once he reveals himself to be a boy, the girls revert back to their female gender stereotype; they immediately begin to fix their hair and ask the other girls how they look. Although, by the end of the movie all of the characters have found the confidence to be themselves and stand up to their oppressors.
Here is the link to the clip with the "break a nail" scene:

The Hairy Bird


Looking through old movies I came across a movie called “All I Wanna Do”. This movie is about an all girls boarding school that is looking to make the transition to a coed boarding school. Although you would expect most girls to be excited about this merge, the main characters are extremely distraught. The movie goes through the girls’ conniving pranks and plans to make the boys school appear rowdy and disorderly. Despite the clear tone of female independence in the movie, what first caught my eye were the credits. In the credits there was a funny looking creature, however upon closer examination I realized that it was a penis is the form of bird (wings and all).
This amazed me because I never expected a modern movie to include this phallic symbol. This directly related to the lecture on talking penises. In addition, the main actresses in the movie frequently related quotes back to this phallic bird. This “hairy bird” was a clear sign of oppression to the girls and when they spoke of it, it was generally under a tone of distress. Also, the boys in the movie refer to their genitalia as a bird at several points in the movie. At one point, one of the main actresses shouts out in a fury, “I’m not gonna live in the shadow of the hairy bird,” which demonstrates her anger at men’s dominance over women’s future. However, I found it funny that the girls’ plans to get rid of the boys centered on portraying the young high school boys as oversexed rambunctious individuals. In addition, several of the boys in the movie are completely preoccupied with taking a picture of their dates topless. Overall, I found the spontaneity of the movie intriguing and the characters were witty and charming. In addition, I loved the willingness of the girls to stand up to authority and their refusal to be raised to be trophy wives refreshing. I believe that this movie is one that most people should see because it instills a sense that woman often have better ruling attitudes than people give them credit for.

My Dad is My Mom

Thomas Beatie

Thomas Beatie's pregnancy was not only inspirational but also a phenomenon we rarely see. The willingness to give up one's body to carry a child is something we do not usually expect the father to do. People focus too much on the fact that Thomas used to be a women, but what he did transcended just the issue of gender. He did something that is expected out of a father: to do whatever it takes to protect his family. Had his wife gone through with a pregnancy, she could have been hurt. Thomas Beatie did something that demonstrated that he was meant to be a man. As the head of the family, he took control of the situation and steered his family towards a happier direction. Critics say that it is simply wrong for such a strange event to take place, but people should embrace such courage as a sign that there are still great people out there. He faced much scrutiny and gossip from various sources.

The future is bright for transexuals or anyone feeling unsure of their sexuality because society as a whole will take notice of the bravery these people show just by living everyday. At one point or another in the history of the United States, blacks, Asians, Catholics, Jews, and others were disliked and frowned upon. But, people move on from their prejudices and learn to accept the difference. As of now, the world for those who are unsure of their sex may seem dark and lonely, but just like those who came before, the only direction it can go is up.

So What if I Have a Beard


The Bearded Lady

Why people find this particular topic interesting is that people are generally fascinated with monsters and freaks. It has probably happened to you once in your lifetime. When your walking down the street and you see something or someone so hideous or outrageously deformed, you cannot help but to keep looking. It is the same as when there is a car accident. On a physical level, the bearded lady is a truly bizarre phenomenon, but would it be that way if all women were capable of becoming like that? Say for instance that women, had they not shaved for about a month, could grow a beard as long and bushy as men on a regular basis, would we be so intrigued by it? No, we would be desensitized. Rather, we would be so used to it that most of us would consider it normal for women to have beards. In reality, most of our conceptions about what is weird or not is based on culture. Culture dictates everything. The more society agrees on the fact that women should look a certain way to be considered beautiful is a clear example of easily people can conform. If from now on, every major media entity promotes women with beards as the new standard of beauty, over a long enough time frame, it will become the new beauty.

Even with culture of today dictating what beauty is, these women are truly admirable. They risk ridicule and laughter every time they go outside. It takes courage beyond what most of us have to be able to live comfortably in their own bodies. It is commendable that there are still so many individuals out there who are willing to fight against the mass conformity and stand out as individuals. What is important is that most people today have lost a sense of being an individual means. We buy material goods of the same nature, having jobs that pay the same, in general doing things because that is what is considered right. These women teaches us a lesson that we should not soon forget: to be happy and proud of who you are and to do things that pleases you, not others.

Special Friendships

http://articles.latimes.com/1985-05-01/news/vw-11784_1_convent

Last week, I gave a presentation about nuns and the "special relationships" that was prevalent in convents. The article above is of a recent story where about 50 nuns from the Maryknoll Missionary Sister's Novitiate near St. Louis who decided to finally tell their story. They all contributed in writing the book called Lesbian Nuns: Breaking Silence the pressure of holding back secret truths that occurred in the convent was simply too much. The fact that so many sisters took part in co-authoring the book meant that this issue is far more widespread than people would think.

Personally, I did not know such erotic relationships would occur in a convent simply because I assumed nuns took their vows of chastity and devoted their lives completely to god. But whether these relationships were inevitable or spontaneous is the question that does not have a definite answer. In theory, it would seem inevitable since it was a setting where people of the same sex are forever secluded in one particular location. Relationships start off as sisters who are close friends become more intimate. The natural biological urges take over and though the sisters swore off sex, primal appeals can no longer be restrained. Another possibility lies in the theory that some sisters were lesbians to begin with. By joining a convent, they would not be judged by a harsh society and pursue their sexual interests in relative obscurity. Whether or not this particular type of sister exist is not known, but it is definitely a possibility.

Whether or not these theories hold true, it does make nuns seem less like saints and more like human beings capable of having feelings and emotions. Nuns have always held a place as glorified angels of heaven that were pure and free of mortal evils and sins. But knowing relationships do occur reassures the rest of us that they are indeed still humans too.

One of the most disheartening things about these special friendships is that people do in fact get hurt, physically or emotionally. As we have learned, some sisters who are more appealing attracted not only more girlfriends but also more scrutiny. Gossip, beatings, and small gestures of disapproval are all apart of the possible consequences of the convent. For those sisters who are not lesbians but received the negative side effects of what does occur, it is a shame. The workings of a convent are still relative quiet to the general public, but if there were to be reform, something to look at is the poor treatment of sisters by others.

Saturday, November 26, 2011

Gender Roles in Films





I recently read an article featured in the walls street journal in which an actress Greena Davis is advocating more female characters in kids G-rated films.  Greena Davis an academy award winner believes in gender equality in entertainment.  As an actor she always wanted to be challenged in a sport instead of being a girlfriend of someone that plays sports. In films women are given a few opportunities in which they can be depict in real life.   

She states that “And I was absolutely floored to see the same kind of gender bias and gender gap in what we're showing little kids. She'd be on my lap and I'd be counting the characters on my fingers and thinking, "This is just not right." She is advocating fixing the female characters there is for children. She believes that this greatly affects children moods and aspiration in life since studies shows the more television children watch the more constraint they obtain.
The female characters that do exist are highly stereotyped or highly sexualized.  The only aspiration in women characters for films is finding romance. The number one occupation for these characters is royalty.  The more a child sees television the more he or she depicts what is seen. Will this change why is it eminent that only males have and image to look up to. This equality is not alone in G-rated films it is also eminent in higher featured films.  A survey done in 2009 found that male’s roles still far outweigh those roles by women.  The top 100 grossing films of 2009 did the survey. The study found out that 32.8% of the 4,342 speaking characters where women, while 67.2% percent where men. I believe in the years to come the power medium of cinema will have a shift in gender starting roles. Filmmakers are starting to see the gender inequality dilemma.

Google Paying Gay Employees More

http://www.nytimes.com/2010/07/01/your-money/01benefits.html

Google to Add Pay to Cover a Tax for Same-Sex Benefits

Working for a company as rich as Google comes with an incredible number of fringe benefits: the free food, the free laundry, the doctor on duty at company headquarters and the impressive five months of maternity leave with full pay and benefits, to mention a few.

Peter Dasilva for The New York Times

Google is trying to eliminate the added tax burden for employees like Bennet Marks, left, and his husband, Kim Harris.

Bucks

Should companies cover the extra costs of domestic partner benefits?

Tara Siegel Bernard

is a personal finance reporter with The Times.

So it is not entirely surprising that the company is about to introduce another set of benefits that pushes the envelope — this time, geared toward its gay and lesbian workers.

On Thursday, Google is going to begin covering a cost that gay and lesbian employees must pay when their partners receive domestic partner health benefits, largely to compensate them for an extra tax that heterosexual married couples do not pay. The increase will be retroactive to the beginning of the year.

“It’s a fairly cutting edge thing to do,” said Todd A. Solomon, a partner in the employee benefits department of McDermott Will & Emery, a law firm in Chicago, and author of “Domestic Partner Benefits: An Employer’s Guide.”

Google is not the first company to make up for the extra tax. At least a few large employers already do. But benefits experts say Google’s move could inspire its Silicon Valley competitors to follow suit, because they compete for the same talent.

Under federal law, employer-provided health benefits for domestic partners are counted as taxable income, if the partner is not considered a dependent. The tax owed is based on the value of the partner’s coverage paid by the employer.

On average, employees with domestic partners will pay about $1,069 more a year in taxes than a married employee with the same coverage, according to a 2007 report by M. V. Lee Badgett, director of the Williams Institute, a research group that studies sexual orientation policy issues.

So Google is essentially going to cover those costs, putting same-sex couples on an even footing with heterosexual employees whose spouses and families receive health benefits.

The company began to look at the disparity after a gay employee pointed it out, said Laszlo Bock, Google’s vice president for people operations (also known as human resources). Google, by the way, says its benefits team seriously considers any suggestions on how to expand its coverage.

“We said, ‘You’re right, that doesn’t seem fair,’ so we looked into it,” Mr. Bock said. “From that initial suggestion, we said, let’s take a look at all the benefits we offer and see if we are being truly fair across the board.” As a result, the company also decided to make a few other changes that would help gay employees, including eliminating a one-year waiting period before qualifying for infertility benefits and including domestic partners in its family leave policy — going beyond the federal Family and Medical Leave Act, which requires employers to provide up to 12 weeks’ leave in a one-year period to recover from a medical condition or to care for a relative.

The extra compensation to cover the domestic partner tax will apply only to same-sex domestic partners, Mr. Bock said, because heterosexual couples can avoid the added tax by marrying. (Same-sex couples can make their unions official in several states, but their relationship will not be federally recognized.)

The additional pay will also cover the dependents of the employee’s domestic partner. The changes will be retroactive to Jan. 1, and will apply only to workers in the United States.

It is hard to say how many of Google’s 20,600 employees will be affected by the changes, but the company’s internal gay and lesbian group — they call themselves Gayglers — has about 700 members (though some members may simply support their gay and lesbian co-workers).

So what’s the cost of Google’s largess? Mr. Bock declined to provide details but said the decision was less about money and more about equalizing benefits. “If you were to add it all up, it’s not like we are talking hundreds of thousands per employee,” he said. “It will cost some money, but it was more about doing the right thing.”

The Kaiser Family Foundation says that 36 percent of large companies that offer health benefits provide coverage for same-sex domestic partners, and more than half of Fortune 500 companies provide domestic partner coverage — but few pay the extra costs of that coverage.

In California, even more companies may provide coverage because the state requires insurance products issued there to be extended to registered domestic partners.

Still, Google isn’t the first company to “gross up” their employees’ pay, as raises to cover taxes are known. According to the Human Rights Campaign, a handful of other organizations, including Cisco, Kimpton Hotels and the Gates Foundation, do so as well. Benefits experts said a few other companies provided the extra compensation, though it still amounted to a relatively small number.

But given the competitive nature of the benefits culture in Silicon Valley, where companies often offer extra perks to attract top employees, Google’s decision could lead to policy reviews, experts said.

“It could have a ripple effect, prompting other employers, and particularly employers in the same industry, to take a look at their own benefits package and see whether it would be appropriate to extend those benefits,” said Kathleen Murray, principal in the health and benefits consulting business in San Francisco for Mercer, the consulting firm. “When you have a high-profile company doing anything, that tends to get into the mind of the culture, and it can have a more diffuse effect.”

The company’s announcement came on the heels of a decision by the Labor Department to permit employees who are acting as parents to take leave under the Family and Medical Leave Act to care for a child, even if there are no legal or biological ties. But Google’s move would allow employees to care for a partner, too.

Congress has tried to address the fact that same-sex couples pay more for domestic partner health coverage. The health care overhaul legislation passed by the House last November included language that would have eliminated the tax on employer-provided coverage. But the provision did not make it into the final legislation signed byPresident Obama in March.

Google “has decided it’s in their best interest to treat employees with same-sex partners fairly,” said Daryl Herrschaft, who oversees theWorkplace Project of the Human Rights Campaign Foundation, “and that includes picking up the slack when federal law doesn’t recognize the diversity of today’s work force.”


In this article, "Google to Add Pay to Cover a Tax for Same-Sex Benefits", we see that Google is starting a new benefit for its gay employees. Along with the benefits of free food, free laundry, a doctor on duty at company headquarters, and five months of maternity leave with full pay, Google has added the benefit of "covering a cost that gay and lesbian employees must pay when their partners receive domestic partner health benefits, largely to compensate them for an extra tax that heterosexual married couples do not pay." Employees with domestic partners have to pay on average about $1069 more a year than a married employee with the same health coverage. This difference in cost is due to the government taxing the employer provided health benefits for gay and lesbian employees in a domestic partnership, and the tax can only be removed from their income if the employee's domestic partner is considered to be a dependent. This extra tax charge on gay and lesbian employee's income will be made up by Google in their new benefit.

Google making their homosexual employees the same as their heterosexual employees shows a step forward in society. Although other companies, such as Cisco, Kimpton Hotels, and the Gates Foundation, had previously done the same as Google in covering their employees tax by increasing their pay, Google's increase is greatly beneficial to our society because it is a widely popular and successful company. Seeing companies like Google taking action against the government's unfair consideration of homosexual couples in comparison to heterosexual couples provides incentive and encouragement towards other companies in doing the same. Additionally, this new benefit towards domestic partnership demonstrates society consideration of homesexual in comparison to heterosexual couples as this action has received a great positive response from society. So, it shows the borders between gender identities diminishing in today's eyes, with companies fighting back against the government's unjustly treatment of homosexual couples and the positive feedback Google received in fighting back.