Men and Women Cant be friends... Or Can They?

In the video why men and women cant be friends, two young film makers set out to answer the question can men and women really be just friends. The do this by interviewing people at the Utah state university library. The video starts off with the interviewer asking several attractive young women if men and women can be just friends. They all confidently answer yes, and the film soon switches to a series of men struggling with they question. Some of them giggle or scoff, some of them attempt to rationalize there feelings, but the answer they give is ultimately no. The general consensus amongst them men was that they can not control who they are attracted to, and while their behavior may remain friendly, they’re desires do not. Out of the fellows interviewed, one seemed to really convey the point well, in both language and tone. He explains,” I mean were all men, so of cores were going to have those feelings... And we can be content with just friendship… and we can be silent, regarding those feelings, but were gonna have them.” The long pauses between phases, His uncomfortable mannerisms, and the matter-of-factness in his voice all perfectly represent the essence of how it feels to hide intimate feelings for a good friend. The discrepancy in answers between men and woman first appears to point to the conclusion that women like to believe their male friends have the best intentions, and the girls underestimate their true feelings. The interviewer then begins to ask the girls if they have ay close guy friends right now, and if they think he is interested in them romantically, or at least would take advantage of an opportunity to sleep with them. Most of the girls barely miss a beat before saying, “well… yeah”, or “of cores.” They are not at all disillusioned to the fact that their male “friends” desire them sexually, they just have learned to put up with it. ‘learned to put up with it’ is not really accurate. For they do not view it as a burden or as strange, that is simply built into their understanding of friendship with a man. The true difference is that men and women seem to view the concept of “friendship” with someone from the opposite sex as differently. For men, intimate feelings change the nature of the relationship: a world of repressed love and suffering in silence does not equate to friendship. But for women, the two are not mutually exclusive. Maybe it is because for the average women, most of her male friends want the relationship to be intimate, and if she were to reject every one of their friendships, she would have no male friends, and this causes the two concepts to blend together in her psyche. Women and men simply understand the meaning of friendship differently. What do you think, can men and women be friends?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T_lh5fR4DMA